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The Party Experience..

Okay, I told you guys & gals I had a party to attend & that I’d update y’all & let you know how it went. — Well that party was tonight & I’m sticking to my word.. so here goes…

It was a formal work party(My husband’s job.) & my big thing was that I’m not good with socializing, especially with people I don’t know. — So I was a little scared, I won’t lie. — The thing is, usually my (sometimes irrational) fears of something are way worse than the actual something. — and as usual, that was the case tonight. — Thank God! πŸ™‚

It actually went really well! I was only nervous for the first 15 minutes or so & then I was just fine. — Granted this shy girl isn’t going to turn into a social butterfly overnight or anything like that… but I was not tucked quite so tightly in to my little shell tonight.

The one thing I did notice is that I have this bad habit of looking away when I meet people. It’s pretty uncomfortable sometimes & it’s a habit to shift my gaze away. — Once I noticed I was doing it, I forced myself to do better. — That’s the only way it will get better… is if I make myself get used to it. — It’s always easier to stay in my comfort zone, but I know that won’t get me very far. So I’m slowly working on pushing myself out of it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure people noticed I’m shy & not as talkative as others, but for me and what I’m usually feeling during events like this, I made some progress. πŸ™‚

So I had a pretty good night!

One step at a time..I know I will get where I want to be, even if it’s just one small step at a time. — I have to start somewhere. πŸ™‚

As Always,
Heather! (:

7 thoughts on “The Party Experience..

  1. As a sufferer of social anxiety and a complete introvert, I can 100 percent relate to how you feel. Just the thought of attending functions that require me to engage in small talk, mingle, or even just be around a bunch of people I’m not comfortable with makes me sick to my stomach. Consequently, I’ve become somewhat of a hermit, and I waited until age 28 to work up the nerve to go to college.

    The other day, my husband and I were invited to lunch with his boss, and I immediately closed up and wanted to decline. Instead, I forced myself to go and ended up having a great time after some initial awkwardness, but that’s usually how it goes. The college thing I was afraid of for so many years? Yeah, it’s been the most amazing four years of my life so far. I don’t even want to graduate, I enjoy it so much.

    The thing about this anxiety and shyness is that it doesn’t make us unable to relax and have fun, it makes us think we can’t and fear that we’ll make a fool out of ourselves. Even though I know that I usually end up enjoying myself when I push myself to do something like that, I still get scared every time.

    I’m sorry for such a lengthy comment. I just completely connected to this post and wanted to share my experiences with you. Just try to remember, in the future, that you are capable to letting loose and enjoying yourself… you just have to push yourself over that first hurdle of fear. I usually make myself think about the fact that we only live once, and I don’t want to let my fears limit my experiences and potential.

    Best of luck with your future endeavors.

    πŸ™‚ DW

    • Yeah it took a long time for me to realize that I could still have fun & enjoy myself in social settings. Sometimes being uncomfortable takes over & it’s a real struggle, but a lot of the time I do have fun. β€” I like the way you think, telling yourself that you only get to live life one time. β€” I tell myself that a good bit too. Especially on those days when I feel like I’m missing out because of my anxiety. β€” We seem to be a lot alike in that regard, lol. β€” & Thank-You, best of luck to you as well! πŸ™‚

  2. Good on you for making the effort. The first step is, as you say, notice yourself and your own habits and behaviours. Then make an effort to do things different – this is, if you wish for a different outcome and experience.
    Just found your blog today. Enjoyed what I have read so far, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    • Thank-You! I’m glad you found me, lol. πŸ™‚ & I agree 100%. Figure out what it is you’re doing that needs changing… and work on making the change. — Change can be such a good thing.

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